Ok so I admit it has happened before, but usually quietly and from people who I have not seen nor heard from outside Facebook (and sometimes not even on Facebook) for many years. One day you are friended and then next you are not. Sadly many times it took me forever to even realize that it had happened and then I did not really care. Until last night.
So my step-daughter had been having issues with my husband and I have suspected with me for a long time now. We have not seen her in almost a year and that was for one day and it had been a year since the last visit. (Long story involving a teenager and the evil ex-wife. Yes I know they are not all evil but the one I have to deal with is.)
Anyway since Facebook is the only way we have to contact my step-daughter (she un-friended her father awhile ago and calling her is a complicated situation. I am not allowed) I always reach out every few weeks to see how she is. Always me and never her, but she is a teenager after all. So I sent an e-mail Monday and waited and waited until Wednesday night. Not usual for her to ignore me. So I posted on her FB wall asking if she was ignoring me intentionally. I noticed a couple hours later that it was deleted but still no response from her. (Mind you I know she was online Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday) So I wrote I will take that as a yes. That was then deleted as well with still no response from her. Well I wrote ok fine delete me on her wall and sent her another e-mail asking what her problem was. I am not one to take crap from my children, which I have considered her for over 6 years. She then e-mailed me all mad that I would write on her wall just because she did not respond fast enough. That I was immature and then came the un-friend.
So last night I was angry and I will admit it hurt like hell. Here is a kid that I took into my heart and life and helped in every way I could. I know she is a teenager but I also know her and this is not like her at all. I am so angry, this is the only way we have of contacting her and now she has decided to cut it off. The other times I could blame her mother but this time it is on her. I am also angry because poor Big J misses her sister so much and what can I say? Before it was easy to blame her sister's mother but now how do I tell her that her sister does not want to see her? Thankfully Little J does not understand anything and hopefully never will.
Ok I guess I am still very angry and hurt. I know everyone will say that she is a teenager and it will get better but I am not one for people acting like this and she is just not like this or at least she was not. I guess she is more like her mother then I knew and now her mother has one.
I am ready to purge my heart.